Tuesday, 1 February 2011

10 years of marriage -We've only just begun


"Just Married!" ~ confetti  ~ love this photo

Mighty Prince Warrior and I celebrate a decade of marriage this week.We are celebrating this milestone of  10 years of being husband and wife, with a whole day to ourselves. 12 whole hours - just about us. Mighty Prince Warrior has planned the whole day, 9am -9pm, with activities that I know nothing of. A mystery day. I am looking forward to it.

A lot has happened in 10 years. We were married on a Saturday afternoon 03.02.01. (Do you like the date? Easy to remember!)

Since then we have:

2001
rented a unit
I worked full time
Mighty Prince Warrior finished uni
2002
became pregnant
lost a baby to miscarriage
became pregnant
I worked part-time
Mighty Prince Warrior worked full time
changed churches to support our friends pastoring
2003
rented a house - moved
Leader Boy Warrior arrived
diagnosed with Hashimoto's Disease
I became a stay at home mum
I ran a mum's group
2004
purchased a townhouse - moved
became pregnant
Mighty Prince Warrior lost his job
Mighty Prince Warrior started a business at home
2005
Courageous Boy warrior arrived
sold townhouse
purchased a house - moved
I was diagnosed with depression
went on anti-depressants
2006
became pregnant
had employees working in our house
2007
Fearless Boy Warrior arrived
Mighty Prince Warrior started 2nd business from home
church dissolved - changed churches
2008
adult nephew moved in
felt God asking me to trust Him to overcome depression
I went off anti-depressants
started writing - started blog
began homeschooling
2009
had employees working in our house
sold house
purchased house - moved
adult nephew moved out
I overcame depression
changed churches
2010
Mighty Prince Warrior moved the 2 businesses to an industrial building
finally found a church to call home
continued homeschooling
2011 & beyond
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First comes love than comes marriage then comes Jo-Anne with a baby carriage!
(That's Leader Boy Warrior in there.)
If I was to tell you that it has been a decade of marital bliss, I would be lying. Marriage is hard work. When you try and blend two people from very different backgrounds, viewpoints and personalities together - it's going to get messy! Add a few extra pressures to the equation - pregnancies, miscarriage, 3 children, 2 home business, fatigue from health issues, homeschooling and depression, and you get  an explosive volatile cocktail. But in it all, we have honoured our covenant, even though at times we certainly didn't feel like it.

We entered our marriage knowing that it was a covenant that would bond us for the rest of our lives.  We choose to see our marriage as a covenant as opposed to a contract.  A contract has clauses. A contract can be broken, unlike a covenant. So at those times when the going was tough, we knew that we had committed to work through whatever life throws us. And we have been thrown a lot in 10 years. In it all though, we have seen His hand moving. Our hearts have been healed, and are being healed, from old wounds that we entered the marriage with.  We have seen Him provide for us and look after us. Even when we felt He wasn't there, He never left our sides.

The good news is, in all that we have been through together, we have grown. Adversity will do that, if you allow it. It has shaped us into who we are today. We are not the same people who said wedding vows 10 years ago. We have grown both as individuals, and together as a married couple. We have grown in our love for each other. Our love has deepened. It is no longer the romantic love that we first experienced while courting and throughout earlier years of marriage. There is a depth to our love for one another. As He has entwined our lives and our hearts, I feel us truly becoming one. We are not there yet, but we are getting there.

Our first dance as husband and wife
I believe that the first 10 years of our marriage has been a time of rebuilding and renovation in both our hearts. He has gutted our own inner dwellings completely, and we are laying a new foundation in Him. He continues to rebuild us and make the two separate dwellings one. It has been both uncomfortable and unpleasant. But I am looking forward to the end result.

I believe the best years are ahead of us. Having been through so much together has strengthened our marriage, and our trust in Him. He is the Master Builder. Rebuilding & restoration is His specialty. This is one thing we can be sure of -He is not finished with us yet. As a couple we have so much ahead of us to look forward to. Having survived the baby/toddler years, we look forward to a new season in our family. One that will be very different form the last.

Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn't want what it doesn't have. Love doesn't strut, Doesn't have a swelled head, Doesn't force itself on others, Isn't always "me first," Doesn't fly off the handle, Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, Doesn't revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. Love never dies. {1 Cor 13:1-9}
The description of love in this portion of scripture is my benchmark. It is what I aim for. It is how the Father loves me, and it is my goal to love my husband the same. But it's OK, I don't have to strive and do it alone. I have One that never leaves me and that will continue to shape me and guide me in my role as wife. I asked Him to do so in my wedding vows:


I take you to be my beloved husband. I promise to love, honour, respect and support you, as we grow together. As your best friend I will be by your side through whatever joy or trail we face. I here and now, give you everything of myself. I promise to be all God has destined me to be as your wife. By the power of the Holy Spirit, I will fulfill these vows all the days of my life, in Jesus' name.
Mighty Prince Warrior, I love you with all my heart. You are my beloved. You are my best friend. You are my soul mate. Thank you for your patience and grace throughout the last 10 years. I am honoured to be your wife. I can't convey to you just how much you mean to me in words. So, I will spend a lifetime showing you just how much I love you with my actions.

Still taking lessons from the King,




14 comments:

  1. Wow - what a journey! Happy Anniversary to you both. I love seeing marriage as a covenant - praying for many amazing years ahead for you both!

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  2. Congrats on 10 years Jo!! The best years are yet to come! Loved reading this post :) Mel xx

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  3. Beautiful post!! Congratulations, enjoy your special surprise day :-)

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  4. Happy Anniversary!! I enjoyed reading your timeline, your times of trial that saw great victory!
    God is blessing you and it's cool to see how your rejoice in that.

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  5. Congratulations!! I love your beautiful post today!
    Have a wonderful day.
    Blessings

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  6. Congratulations on 10 years! And what a romantic husband you have, planning a whole day devoted to each other! May God bless you with many more wonderful years together.x

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  7. That was beautifully written. The love that you have developed over the past 10 years for your husband and family is wonderful. Marriage is hard. It is also the most wonderful blessings in our lives. Enjoy your day! I pray your next ten will be bigger and better then the first... God is good like that. :)

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  8. Congratulations! 10 years is a wonderful milestone. And you are right - it is only the beginning! You are a wise couple to keep God at the center of your marriage...He is the third strand to bind you together.
    "Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken." Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

    May God shower you both with blessings throughout your entire lives together. Have fun on your mystery day!

    Living for Him, Joan

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  9. I love this post! So important to celebrate. {hugs}

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  10. Congratulations Jo and Mighty Prince Warrior! Enjoy your special day. I loved reading about your married life thus far and getting to know you more through this post:)

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  11. A beautiful testimony dear. 1 Cor. 13 is one of my favorite sections. I hope you'll share a little of your special day later....I think it's so sweet for your hubby to plan the day for you both! Many happy returns on your anniversary too!

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  12. Beautiful, beautiful post Jo! Praise God for your tenth year of marriage. Looking forward to hearing about what was planned on your special day! Love to you! xxx

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  13. Wow your journey has been as crazy as ours. Happy Anniversary, 10 years is fantastic. I am incredible inspired by your courage and determination when facing adversity. praying God blessings you abundantly on your next ten years and beyond.
    much love xx

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Jo Princess Warrior xo