I also understand that they won't always believe that I am the most beautiful in the world and they won't always want to marry me. As they grow this will change. So in readiness for this, I have already started 'dating' my boys. We call them Mummy/son 'dates'. Each week I take one of the boy warriors out by themselves for an hour. The place will vary, sometimes it will be at a McCafe, sometimes I take them out for ice cream or to the park- but the motive is always the same - to nurture our heart connection.
As a homeschooling mum, I sometimes find myself spending quantity time with my boys, but not quality time. Sometimes in the busyness of life, heart connections can easily be neglected. I want to purposely keep the heart connection strong, so when the days arrive where their world is spinning around them, the heart connection that we have will still be in place. I am preparing for those days during the teenage years now, where they will be starting to try out their wings, before they leave the nest.
Growing up in a family of 6 children, I sometimes felt lost in the busyness of life. My mother and father loved us very much. But I felt that they were always too busy to hear what was on my mind and in my heart. Communication amongst my family members didn't exist. By 'dating' my boy warriors, I hope that they will feel comfortable enough to share their heart with me in years to come. Instead of turning to my peers or the opposite sex as I did, I pray they will know that once every 3 weeks, they will have Mum's undivided attention for an hour.
I am painfully aware that with each day that passes, I am a day closer to my boys growing up, and one day leaving my home. I am also aware that my job is to train my boy warriors to become great husbands one day. My daughter-in-laws will reap what I am sowing now. (You're welcome girls,whoever you are!) Leader Boy Warrior opened every door for me on our first 'date'. I asked him where he had learned that, and he told me that he saw it on a movie! Although I want to encourage my boys to embrace being wild at heart, as God designed them, I do want them to be gentlemen. I want them to know that they need to treat every girl they meet like the princess that they are. My Mummy/son 'date' gives me an opportunity to work on these skills too.
For a small commitment once a week, the fruit that I will see in years to come, will far outweigh the inconvenience. I am nurturing a heart connection with each of my sons, but much more than that, I am teaching that they are worth my time. I am showing the boy warriors that, even though I am busy, their heart issues matter to me. I am teaching them communication skills, that hopefully, they will duplicate with their own wife and children. I am showing them that they are valued and loved.
12 This is what the Lord says: "I will give her peace that will flow to her like a river. The wealth of the nations will come to her like a river overflowing its banks. Like babies you will be nursed and held in my arms and bounced on my knees. 13 I will comfort you as a mother comforts her child. You will be comforted in Jerusalem." 14 When you see these things, you will be happy, and you will grow like the grass. The Lord's servants will see his power, but his enemies will see his anger. (Isaiah 66:12-14, New Century Version)But most importantly, I am showing God's mother heart to my children. The way we parent our children will determine how they relate to God. We see who God is first through the lenses of how we were parented. I want my boy warriors to know that they are loved, valued and have a purpose. I don't want to taint their view of who God is. I want them to know that they can come to me for comfort, just as they can go to God for comfort. I want to show them grace as He has shown me. I want to show them that their heart matters.
Still taking lessons from the King,